A concerned mom writes an open letter to young women about how slutty their pictures may seem to her children.
Kimberly Hall, Director of Women’s Ministry at a Presbyterian church in Texas, writes a “heartfelt” open letter pleading for teenage girls to stop taking such sexy selfies.
In her post, “FYI (If you’re a teenage girl),” she pushes her ideals for young women to be more “modest” while supporting lovely double standards.
Throughout her post, she has photos of her young sons on a beach wearing typical swimwear: Trunks and no shirt. While showing off her young sons on the beach is fine, a young woman doing the same would showcase them as the harlots Hall knows them to be.
“We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through.”
So because you put a photo out on social media, if a boy sees it and imagines you naked, you’re at fault. Naturally, this makes total sense. Boys will be boys.
Hall explains that if you’re friends with one of the children on social media, every one in the family will go through the photos and decide if you’re worthy enough to be a social media friend.
“And now – big bummer – we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know your parents care about you.
I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he can’t ever un-see it? You don’t want the Hall boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?
Neither do we.
And so, in our house, there are no second chances, ladies. If you want to stay friendly with the Hall men, you’ll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent. If you try to post a sexy selfie, or an inappropriate YouTube video – even once – you’ll be booted off our on-line island.”
Think you’ve made a mistake by posting a scandalous photo of yourself online? Have no fear, Hall has some advice for you all!
“Girls, it’s not too late! If you think you’ve made an on-line mistake (we all do – don’t fret – I’ve made some doozies), RUN to your accounts and take down anything that makes it easy for your male friends to imagine you naked in your bedroom.
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy.”
So yet again, if you’ve posted a simple photo of yourself on a beach with friends, then it’s you’re fault for tainting the innocent minds of boys who are unable to stop themselves from imaging you naked. Therefore you are going to ruin not only your life, but their life as well.
This leads to the next point: Degradation of selfies
For once women are able to decide what type of image of themselves they want to show. They wear what they want to wear, pose however they want and decide which ones to post or not post. For the first time in ages, women get to be in charge of their image and of course people are in an uproar about it.
Not only do people become unnecessarily irritated by selfies, they make fun of them constantly. Although I can understand this at times, because seeing loads of bathroom mirrors shots does get a bit old. But do they deserve such disrespect at all times?
What are your thoughts?
What do you think of Hall’s message to young women? Also, what do you think of this selfie-photo culture that we’ve found ourselves in?